Let's not blame others for the ambiguities of open societies... We are all in it together!
Torsten Weber • 1. Januar 2026

Let me share with you 3 ambiguities which make me think:
- Sports bar (Frankfurt, every weekend): After a dozen slow-motion replays from all angles. Half of the guests scream that this is the clearest penalty the world has ever seen. The other half angrily nags back that never in the history of football anybody would have given a penalty for that. And even a day later - when emotions have calmed down – educated adults on both sides are convinced that their own club has been systematically disadvantaged. For years.
- G20 Summit (Johannesburg, November 2025): Europeans agree somewhat that the world is in decline. Africans rejoice that there is finally so much more to come. Rarely in my professional career as a conflict mediator and facilitator, I have physically sensed such different levels of energy, confidence and self-efficacy in the same room.
- Most of us (everywhere, every day): Most of us want public and private institutions to protect us from all risk and evil in the world. And at the same time, we complain about excessive “bureaucracy” and blame it for everything that goes wrong.
In open plural societies, democracy by its sheer nature cannot be anything else than ambiguous. It may even come across as confusing. In any case, democracy is always: Inconvenient!
Unfortunately, many citizens today believe that democracy is like a giant shopping mall or an Amazon call centre with convenience as the only dominant principle.
“I want everything! Immediately! I want politics and administration to cater to my individual preferences. Of course, without me having to contribute anything myself.”
Decades of consumerism and customer-centricity narratives have corrupted us. Our consumer muscle was pumped up. Our citizen muscle atrophied. A bit of Trump is in all of us.
(inspired by 1930ies Egyptian surrealist Georges Henein, Zeitz MOCAA, Cape Town 2017)
Sure, our plural democracy needs an upgrade and adaptation to technological and societal developments. Nobody disagrees that radical reforms are necessary and urgent. But let’s be honest: The biggest obstacles to a revitalised democracy are NOT only the others!
Democracy vastly depends on ourselves, on how we manage our own (primitive) instincts, and on how we deal with the painful inconvenience of change.
I wish all of us this year that we train our ambiguity tolerance, that we stop blaming others and – yes, really – that we embrace inconvenience as an indispensable change catalyst in democracies.
Happy New Year 2026!
Torsten
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